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My Dad, the Artist (Inspiration series, Week 23)

Dad on his wedding day, June, 1962

My father never really fit the traditional American father mold – probably because he wasn’t American by birth at all. He was Swiss, and retained a certain European-ness, in his tastes, his speech, his clothes – he loved football but would never have been seen in a jersey (I don’t recall him ever wearing a t-shirt).  He was even cool when smoking – he preferred Benson & Hedges, the brand from London. He had monogrammed shirts and loved James Bond. To be fair, he did also have a fondness for Jack Nicklaus and John Wayne.

What set Dad apart, other than his clothes and his accent, was his creativity. Though he earned his salary in marine insurance, he had an artist living inside him, one who came out often, around the holidays, on birthdays, and even on vacation.

He was famous for his Christmas cards, which were made by hand each year. From a pen and ink rendering of our Teaneck home to linoleum block prints featuring Christmas trees and wreaths, a Roland Rueger original was something to treasure. Many people kept them all and continued to display them year after year.

His handwriting added to the beauty of the things he made. One year, when a dollhouse from Santa to my sister and me would be late, Dad penned a letter from him to let us know. It was impeccable and left no doubt in my mind that it was, indeed from the North Pole.

When a good friend and neighbor turned 40 in 1976, Dad wrote a poem for him that was silly and slightly bawdy. The family has it to this day.

Knowing his love of jigsaw puzzles, that same family presented him with an all red one as a joke. I’m not sure how long it took him, but he finished it – then promptly turned it into art, scrawling graffiti and having it framed, then returning it to the gifters.

Dad’s art came out on my birthday, too. He would take fingerprints of each partygoer and under his pen they became animals – fluffy rabbits, a duck – that he would carefully place in a little wooden circle frame. I still have one of mine.

There was perhaps no better outlet for his talent than the beach, where we’d spend two weeks every summer. Dad could only get time off for one, and by the second morning was usually on the sand before most of us were up.

He made us race cars, big enough to sit in and good for hours of fun, especially when the waves were too big or I just didn’t want to get wet. The details, from the wheels to the lights and dashboard, were stunning.

The highlight of vacation, though, was the sandcastle. Dad would haul out his equipment – buckets, shovels, and all of the little carving and shaping tools – and get to work. He was at once serious and light, totally focused and yet peaceful, in a state of calm. Back and forth he’d go to the ocean to fill a pail with water, stopping only for lunch and perhaps a quick swim.

Crowds would gather as they realized this was to be no ordinary structure. Kids would get too close and I’d want to warn them off. The pride was overwhelming. This was my dad building, doing something that was so obviously better than anything around.

The castles came complete with moats, bridges, windows, and towers. They were huge, at least in my memory – big enough to imagine myself in as the princess. I don’t have tons of memories from childhood, but I can picture Dad walking around his creation, sculpting staircases and trees with the wet sand he’d let drip though his hands. It was magical.

Watching him draw was too. He’d sit at the dining room table, instruments in hand, and it was like another person emerged. One day when I was about 12, I found a big red book of Dad’s – the “Famous Artist’s Course,” a correspondence class that taught the basics and then some. It was a sign to me that though art may have been a hobby for Dad, it was also very real and deserved a commitment. Over the years I’ve worked through bits of it. Perhaps that will be my next project.

The circumstances of life meant that time with my father- especially as an adult – was limited, and there are days when the unsaid words and experiences hang heavy in the air. If I could do it again I would open up more, share more, and for sure, get him to talk more about the art he made and what it meant to him. Though I can’t do that, I can remember the very real artistry that ran through his veins and thus, through mine. I can work to fulfill my own creative dreams, in honor of the man never let go of his.

I believe that art – whether done as a painter, a singer, an architect, or a landscaper – runs deep in the genetics of humans. The desire to express ourselves is always present, and we each seek our best and most natural path to do just that. It is one of the most indelible marks of a life well lived. I am forever grateful for a role model whose artistry left a huge impression on me and spurs me to nurture my own.

I miss you, Dad, today and always.


Taking up the Challenge (Inspiration Series, Week 10)

Despite all else, she wrote


The story of JK Rowling is pretty well known by now. A young writer comes up with this idea for a story,  or rather, a series of them, nearly fully formed, while riding on a train. She develops a cast of characters, begins to plot. And then… 

Over the course of the next few years, she loses her mother, her marriage, and her job, and finds herself broke, with a baby to raise and a diagnosis of clinical depression to round out her life. And yet, despite what to some might feel like a rejection from the Universe, Rowling continued to write, child in tow, day after day in local cafes – not waiting for a time when things might fall into place, but continuing to show up, pen in hand, day after day. 

She battled both inner turmoil and poverty, yet fought on, page by page. Through sheer will she completed the first book, which was quickly rejected by 12 publishers. (Spoiler alert: the book finally finds a publisher and does not do badly.)

Rowling is inspirational on multiple levels. She was handed nothing, other than, perhaps, an enviable imagination and a healthy dose of discipline. She was tested beyond what many of us could take –  who would have blamed her if she’d decided that this huge project was more than she could handle? And yet, she persisted. Rather than wait for life to get better, for the stars to align in her favor, she fought back against her demons (in fact, she worked them into her story). At a fork in the road that would determine the next chapter of her own life, she chose the one marked Create and worked her challenges into blessings that served her instead of keeping her stuck.

Just as her personal story inspires, so too, do Rowling’s stories, none more than Harry Potter. Beyond the tale of a kid who finds out he’s a wizard, his is a coming of age story that touches on nearly every human emotion and fear. From outcast to beloved member of a big family, from innocent follower to a conviction-filled warrior and leader; we follow a young man through adventures and experiences that test his soul, as well as his life. 

Harry’s resilience can be seen right away, when we meet him as a kid living with cruel relatives. Everything is awful, down to his “bedroom” in a cupboard under the stars. But while the news that he is a wizard will ultimately change his life, there are no guaranteed victories. Time and time again, over the course of seven books, he will be faced with choices (not unlike his creator) that demand he reach beyond what is comfortable. Rowling connects us to her protagonist through each phase of his new life, so that we feel as though we are his companions on the journey; we read with bated breath under a kind of cosmic invisibility cloak from which we watch him fight.

The lessons – on courage, on fortitude, on revenge – grow more subtle as Harry progresses through Hogwarts, and no one, not even those he cherishes most, will always do the right thing Even our greatest heroes, Rowling reminds us, come with flaws. 

From Ron Weasley’a occasional lack of loyalty to Dumbledore’s habit of leaving out key bits of information, Harry’s most treasured allies let him down at one point or another. Bad tempers affect nearly everyone at least once, and fights between friends are not uncommon. Good guys pick on others, while apparent villains often reveal complicated motives and emotions once their story is told. Through all of it – the excitement, the wonder, and the tragedy – Harry persists. He rides through the storms he can, waits out others, but never loses focus on the tasks before him. Just as Rowling never lost focus on hers.

Both the author and her young hero faced the big questions, the ones that confront all of us at some point in our lives. Will we pursue our biggest goals and dreams, Or will we choose the safe paths that provide comfort but so often hinder our growth? Will we prove ourselves worthy of the breaths we have been given?

And if our answer is yes, we will fight on, like JK Rowling and Harry Potter, there is perhaps, one question left. What are we waiting for?  As Harry’s godfather tells him, the answer is in our own hands.


 


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